Wednesday, October 15, 2014

We all need Validation

I know we all say one time or another that we don't care what others think. Deep down in the recesses of our darkest corner, I feel we all care. We are validated whether by action, word, or deed--even with ourselves. I've found, lately, all work and no play makes Liz a dull girl! Dull inside and out. I need to balance my life with validation--reward myself in one way or another.

My child showed me this hypnotic video entitled "Validation". It's refreshing. :)

After viewing this, please watch this next one, because, as our hero in "Validation", we never know how we affect others...

 How do you reward yourself after hard work?

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

#IWSG My Breaking Point

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What do you do when the Book Distributor tells you you're book is NOT marketable?

Yep, that was me 3 years ago. I was thrilled when Darkspell released back in 2011. It is a YA Paranormal Romance and here is the blurb:

Winter Sky believes she is everything ordinary . . . until she is kissed by Alex Stormhold.
As seer of Stormhold Coven, Alex is sworn to be Winter’s protector against the darkness that hunts her. Violently thrust into a magickal realm she always thought impossible, she stumbles upon a disturbing secret of her own.

It had been doing very well! I broke well over even with the books I had ordered for signings and so forth, but I thought how much better it would be if I ran it over to the local distributor and get him to distribute my books throughout the state? Yes, I came from a very small publisher and I was left to my own devices as any indie author is.

So I dropped my book off and when I returned a few weeks later, he told me that my book was NOT marketable. What? Oh, I held myself up by a sheer will of power and smiled and nodded as he spoke while trembling and screaming and crying inside.

He told me the market is saturated with fantasy and I need to get realistic fiction out and to change Darkspell's cover.

Dread clutched me and I thought, "write realistic fiction?" I'm a fantasy writer! I write about elves, witches, vampires, magic and dwarves and talking falcons and Greek gods! How in the world will I ever come up with something that has nothing to do with any of these things?

Needless to say, I lost my writerly soul for a loooong time. I cried and cried, wondering how I would do what he said and how in the world my book wouldn't be marketable.

After about a week of mulling over my options (though it took years to put myself back together)--and since writing is my first love, I'd never give up. I had seriously questioned if I should even keep up with my writing career because of the devastation, but after taking it to the Lord and being told to keep on going, I tried my hand in realistic fiction

Guess what? I am quite surprised that I have the ability to write outside of fantasy!

I've written 3 realistic fiction books and have been inspired to write even more--though I have written several  fantasy as well. It was one of the harshest ways to change, I am grateful to him because if he hadn't had broken me down, I would not have written the great books I have now.

Have you had any broken moments that changed your direction?

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

How I Almost Killed Us

Once upon a time, we were planning to move. I had just had a baby and my hubby was an over the road driver. Every weekend, we'd head down south 2 hours to spend time with him in the new apartment we were slowing moving into. Having just had a baby, my bio clock was waaaay off and sleep was a coveted thing for me.

It was on the drive home that my body was wrung dry of sleep and my hubby suggested that I stay and let the kids miss school that Monday; it was Sunday evening. Not wanting them to miss, I decided to drive anyway.

I fought Mr. Sandman throwing grit into my eyes from the time I left, and about an hour and a half into the drive, I started nodding! My 14 year old son, sitting shotgun, had the strongest impression to look at me. Strange that a teenager would even care to look at me when he could be playing on my cell, right?

Well, as it turns out, he caught me with my eyes closed.

"Mom!" he said, clutching my arm. I opened my eyes and saw that we were heading into the V where the exit ramp splits from the highway and it was buffered by a bunch of orange construction barrels. I gasped (I only had about 3 seconds to make a choice), and swerved into the exit ramp and safely got off.

How lucky we were that no one was behind us. How idiotic it was for me to *not* listen to my hubby and kids to stay one more night.

As I write this, I feel shame that I didn't listen to everyone when they urged me to stay, but my drive to get my kids home for school the next day overwrote it all. I will never again feel bad to miss school if it comes right down to it because my family comes first!

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Help keep Babies out of the Dumpster

Did you know that one of Project Cuddle's many rescued babies had been adopted by its Founder and CEO, Debbe Magnusen? Yes, Emily Magnusen was a rescue baby, here is her heartfelt story. I had asked for her permission to share her story because of how poignant and important this is, and she would love for anyone to do so as well.

"My birthmother was a drug addict and prostitute ... she wanted to abort me because she thought I would be a vegetable"

"Most, if not all of my friends, should know that I am adopted. Not all of you know my story.

My birthmother was a drug addict and prostitute. She told my adoptive mom, Debbe Magnusen, that she wanted to abort me because she thought I would be a vegetable. My mom told her not to that there [are] alternatives to her situation and here I am today, healthy and alive, thanks to her.

But my point that I want to get across is not everyone knows that there are options out there, that is why with this tragic event* that has struck so close to home, we need to get the word out there that there are options and and safer alternatives to baby abandonment--I'm living proof.

Go to to learn about these alternatives and get the word out there. My mom is the founder and CEO and she has helped girls in every situation. There is no judgement and she can help. She has rescued over 600 babies and counting ... Instead of spreading mean and hateful words, let's step above that and spread knowledge ... If you have any questions about volunteering ... you can go to the link I shared above."

*Tuesday morning, an infant was discovered in a garbage receptacle outside the birthmother's home. The birthmother and Emily are friends.

400,000 women in the US alone hide their pregnancies every year because of fear of a violent partner, rejection, disappointing others, religion, financial, cultural, shame of rape, etc.

Out of these pregnancies and according to reported incidences, over 20,000 babies are abandoned  each year--and those are the ones who have been found; because of the nature of the secret pregnancy, many babies go on unreported and die.

Because of organizations such as PROJECT CUDDLE, fewer babies die in trash bins, rest rooms, out in the weather and women no longer suffer in silence as well as with unassisted deliveries in homes throughout the country. The Safe Haven Laws allows women to give up their babies without judgment, without name.

Project Cuddle has saved over 750 babies from abandonment in the US and into Canada since 1996.

Because of my passion for babies and protecting them, I have written a book first person of a girl who unwittingly became pregnant and is terrified of what she will do. I wrote Baby's Breath so as to help spread this knowledge Emily is referring to.

Hi, my name is Jessica and I am 16. I had sex with Joshua. I never thought I'd end up pregnant and now I am terrified. I've heard of babies found in dumpsters. I am better than that. I will make sure someone finds him first before the cold does.

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

If You Found a Diamond as BIG as Your 2 Hands ...

In the dark of the night, a mysterious light streaks across the black sky and hits the ground with a glowing impact. A lone peasant and his dog investigate and are stunned to see a gift from Heaven. Because of this object’s very nature, this man delivers it in good faith to the Abbey where the monks are restless and poor from lack of donations. This is when the abbot is inspired to use the celestial rock’s beauty to gain control, but soon, it spins out of control and turns into something ugly.

As I read Mirror of the Soul, I easily became lost in the pages as the many characters endure faith-testing trials. Some fail miserably, some hang by the proverbial thread while for others, it’s not a question of if neither when.

My favorite part is each time Morgan mentions the trio of best friends who are bored teenagers as they roam the village, getting into things they shouldn’t. Unbeknownst to them, they accidentally unravel the deep secret of the abbey.

J. Lloyd Morgan is one of my favorite authors! He has the knack, the ability to get into the hearts and minds of the characters and breathes into them as they jump to life on the pages right before my eyes. He never fails to weave a complicated line of excitement with intrigue and romance along with injustice and justice locking head-to-head as he does in The Mirror of the Soul. I love the way his mind works.

NOTE: The author provided a free copy of this book which has had no sway in my review.